The attributes of God’s character are Love, Mercy, Kindness, Goodness, Holiness, Justice and many more, From the attributes we have come to know God. His Love for us was so Great, that in order to provide a perfect sacrifice for our sins, he took the form of man, humbled Himself and in obedience was put to death by nailing on the cross. So the Love of God is not questioned by anyone that believes. However, there are times when tragedy finds its way into our lives. It hits us quickly, intensely, and painfully, and in most cases senselessly, or without explanation or evening warning. Like a coward who attacks when your back is turned tragedy hits you with the full intensity of it's force. Unprepared and unable to brace yourself and prepare of the coming blow, it hits you with such forcefulness that it knocks you to your knees.
Dazed and gasping for air, you are assaulted again while still on the ground, unable to recover form this unsult you began to wonder "How can a loving God allow this to happen? God why would You take my love one from me, what did my mother,(sister, brother, cousin, best friend, child, husband or wife) ever do to deserve this horrific death?" Then God doesn’t answer, and you began to survey the agonizing pain in your heart and hopelessness in your spirit and that picture of a loving merciful and just God becomes more and more myopic to your grieving soul.
You say things like “I have nothing to live for” or “Why God”, trying to make sense of the circumstance, trying to introspectively explain the senseless pain. Yet try as you may, you just can't piece together the puzzle of God's reason for allowing this to happen.. Then God says;  For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.
But God haven't I tried to be faithful? I know that I have slipped, but God I haven't I loved You with all my heart and with all my soul and with all my mind? Yet You allowed this God, You allowed the enemy to bring me to this lonely dry and desolate place.
Then God says  “Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.”
Then you realize that the depth of the intensity of our pain is emblematical of the goodness of change that God has for you. The tragedy does not just cause change in your habits, but change in your whole life. You see different circumstances differently now, you deal with people differently, even your hopes and desires and expectations have change because of the very thing you fought against.
James 1:2 (KJV) My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing
Your Brother in Christ
T. Charves FireSpeaks