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Who among you is wise and understanding? Let him show his works by a good life in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14 But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. 15 Wisdom of this kind does not come down from above but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. 16 For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every foul practice. 17 But the wisdom from above is first of all pure, then peaceable, gentle, compliant, full of mercy and good fruits, without inconstancy or insincerity.
James 3:13-17(NASB)
I get calls
from church members quite often, sometimes they just want someone to pray with
them, and sometimes in their voice I can tell they just need someone to
encourage them in God's Word. But occasionally they call to tell me about
someone in the church that hurt them, seldom is it a physical hurt, most of the
time it is a failure on the part of church leaders to encourage in their time
of need.
Whenever I get
that last type of call I wait on God to give me the right word for them, even
while my ear is still on the phone listening to their dilemma, I am in prayer,
asking God to use me as a conduit so that they may receive the message that He
has for them. Sometimes by the works of the Holy Spirit wisdom abounds,
sometimes no word at all is given to me and I know my task is that of a
sounding board, or listening ear. Whatever the case, it is the Spirit of God
which dictates my response.
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Today we find
members of the Body of Christ in constant conflict with one another, choir
member against other choir members, prideful and controlling people whose would
rather point at the splinter in your eye then pull the log from their own.
Someone can't get alone with Miss Green "Because she is just too
bossy" or "Deacon Jones thinks he's in control." All of these
are common place even though Jesus said "All
men will know you are my disciple if you love one another."
Of course babes in Christ will make mistakes, but what about those that have
been in Christ for years, those appointed to the office of deacon, elder or pastor?
What do we do when the conflict point at a leader? More importantly, what
should a leader do to avoid him or her being the origin of member's suffering?
There is
nothing more unsettling then to have to apologize for another leader's carnal
handling of a member. And most of the time it is with those members that are
newest in their walk with Christ, those members that we should handle with the
most care and love. Those members that are looking to find Christ in our
behaviors, it is in the presence of the one we should be on our best behavior that
we so outwardly fail.
It may be
nearly impossible to walk this walk with Christ and never have conflict with
another member or someone not in the faith. Sometimes for the right reasons we
are persuaded by scripture to hand someone over to Satan (though never are we
to bar them from the church) 1Corinthians
5:4-5 fellowships. However,
as leaders we have to be more conscience in how we carry the banner of Christ
in all parts of our life. If our attitudes and behaviors are chasing away God's
flock, then we are antagonistic to the building of God's kingdom. We are as the
Bible says an enmity against God! Even in
our ministry. This may seem harsh but we can't march under the blood stain
banner of Christ one minute, and be harsh and mean toward a brother or sister
the next.
The knowledge
of Scripture is never a tool to bash, embarrass or control another person, whether
they are in Christ or not. Sound ministering of church members, and people in general
must be a 24 hour a day, 7 days per week, 52 weeks and 365 days a year walk. To
say “God
made me this way” is not an excuse to disrespect people even if we are
giving them this “truth out of love” it’s an embarrassment to the individual
(speaking) the church he represents, and an indictment of the God he professes.
God is no more responsible for your sin then He is your ability to fly. You are
a sinner because of your fallen nature, and you came to Christ take on a new
nature.
2 Corinthians 5:17; “Therefore, if anyone is
in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has
come”
If then you are
a new creature in Christ you must let go behaviors of the old thing you once
were.
Romans 15:14; “And I myself also am
persuaded of you, my brethren, that ye also are full of goodness, filled with
all knowledge, able also to admonish one another.”
When a church
leader is the origin of the complaint we must take this cry for help very
seriously, we have at jeopardy the character of the leader, and the salvation
of the member, neither of which should be fractured because of carnal thinking
on the part of one or both of them. God has given leaders that they may guide
those that are not quite mature in their spiritual walk with Christ. A leader
is tasked with giving the Word of God in its purest form while still
encouraging and being non-judgmental, without compromising the truth of the
scripture.
When ministering to the flock, the main goal of the leader should not be the correction of an individual's problem, nor to point finger as to who's the blame, nor should the leader use his position to pass judgment, the main goal of the church leader is the salvation and Christian walk with Christ. With that mindset a leader can with spiritual discernment (wisdom) of what is the deeper problem the individual is dealing with, and knowledge of the scriptures (training), and an ear toward God (Holy Spirit inspired) can provide the encouragement to deal with and grow beyond the members problems.
When ministering to the flock, the main goal of the leader should not be the correction of an individual's problem, nor to point finger as to who's the blame, nor should the leader use his position to pass judgment, the main goal of the church leader is the salvation and Christian walk with Christ. With that mindset a leader can with spiritual discernment (wisdom) of what is the deeper problem the individual is dealing with, and knowledge of the scriptures (training), and an ear toward God (Holy Spirit inspired) can provide the encouragement to deal with and grow beyond the members problems.
James 3:17; “ But the wisdom
that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be
intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without
hypocrisy”
However, when
the leader is not led by the Spirit, he will allow his knowledge of the
individual or their situation skews sound judgment. And any advice given will
not be grounded in Spirit and will be is carnal and evil, it makes no
difference if the advice is given with good intentions or not.
"I
said what I said out of love” is never the right answer when dealing
with the fragile heart of a new member in need. We should never have to
apologies for our actions or the way we speak to a member, because our actions
and the way we speak to them must be godly, peaceable, loving, easily entreated
(received) and full of mercy.
Too often I
have seen members leave the church (my own family included) and some eventually
leave their walk with Christ because they were hurt either emotionally,
physically or spiritually by a leader in the Church. Some leaders justify
members leaving by saying “God is weeding out the wheat from the
tarries”, but this is the propaganda of the devil and a reflection of
the leader's irresponsible and prideful behavior.
James 3:14: “But if ye have bitter
envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth”
If we are
speaking harshly to our members we lack love, and are lying when we say we love
them. If we spoke it with our mouths we thought it with our hearts (Matthew 12:34)
Impatience,
being judgmental and prideful behaviors are sins which imprisons as many
leaders in the Body of Christ, as murder, robbery and sexual perversion
imprisons the general populace of any modern day correction facility. Leaders
must always be alert to the seed that they allow to root in their heart,
because every seed planted will always produce fruit of some kind (sometimes a
peach, sometimes a cactus). The leader must constantly ask himself "Do I
have love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness,
humility, and self-control" (Galatians 5:22)
This is especially true when dealing with difficult and new members. If the
leader lacks any of these, then he must make corrections in his life
immediately! Because the leader is accountable to not just his pastor or
earthly leaders, but also to God for his salvation, and the perfecting of the
saints in the Body of Christ.
Your brother in
Christ
FireSpeaks
FireSpeaks
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